With many drafts for this blog started, and many unfinished because there is just so much on my mind lately, I feel horrible because I haven't kept up here. (I gave myself a stern lecture and grounded myself from my books for two days, which is the worst thing in the world.) Yet with Mother's Day this weekend, I pushed all those other important social issues aside and decided to do this post first. As usual with a lot of my posts, something I read somewhere triggers my brain and I just have this need to write about it. In this case it was a meme on facebook about appreciating your mom because of all she went through carrying you, and the labor she went through to bring you into this world, the up all night to do feedings and diaper changes, or when older comforting you when sick. You get the picture. But not all moms went through that, and Mother's Day in my humble opinion is to celebrate ALL moms.
Of course we include grandmother's in this, because well duh they are the parent's moms. But what about those moms that adopted? They may not have gone through pregnancy and labor, but they are still moms. They deserve equal appreciation. They aren't better or worse, they are moms just like the rest of us. Yet that post really upset me because it completely left them out. I think I would be offended to some degree if I were an adoptive mother and saw that meme. I'm not saying all adoptive mothers are offended, or should be offended, just that is how I think I would feel if I was an adoptive mom. This does not mean that adoptive moms do or should feel that way, they have their own minds, thoughts and emotions. But I do think they deserve equal appreciation.
I'm not talking about being perfectly politically correct. All I'm saying is that giving birth does not a mom make. As the saying goes, any woman can be a mother, but it takes a special woman to be a mom. Thankfully, most of us fall in the latter category. So to ALL moms out there, no matter what kind you are, I hope you have a very special and happy Mother's Day.
Of course we include grandmother's in this, because well duh they are the parent's moms. But what about those moms that adopted? They may not have gone through pregnancy and labor, but they are still moms. They deserve equal appreciation. They aren't better or worse, they are moms just like the rest of us. Yet that post really upset me because it completely left them out. I think I would be offended to some degree if I were an adoptive mother and saw that meme. I'm not saying all adoptive mothers are offended, or should be offended, just that is how I think I would feel if I was an adoptive mom. This does not mean that adoptive moms do or should feel that way, they have their own minds, thoughts and emotions. But I do think they deserve equal appreciation.
I'm not talking about being perfectly politically correct. All I'm saying is that giving birth does not a mom make. As the saying goes, any woman can be a mother, but it takes a special woman to be a mom. Thankfully, most of us fall in the latter category. So to ALL moms out there, no matter what kind you are, I hope you have a very special and happy Mother's Day.